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RELATIONSHIPCOUNSELLING

Anxiety and Depression Therapy ADD, Bi polar therapy

who is it for?

      Are you and your partner;

  • Struggling to communicate effectively?

  • Finding cultural differences or backgrounds difficult to merge or understand.

  • Do important talks between you and your partner have a tendancy to spiral into shouting matches or long bouts of silence and avoiding each other?

  • Do you feel that in lots of ways you are great together, but also feel like you're not heard, or valued, or that your partner fails to really understand you?

  • Do you have insecurities and mistrust within your relationship that you need help overcoming?

  • Do you struggle with getting back to how you used to be?

  • Has infidelity occurred and neither of you knows how to put it right or trust again?

what is relationship counselling?

Whatever your problem, whilst not a miracle cure, counselling can help you identify and work through most of the clashes that today's relationships can bring.

Mostly it comes from 2 people on different pages, whilst they most likely want the same things, ie both want more intimacy, less conflict, or to be heard, a lot of couples simply do not know how to achieve this.

The Gottmans state that it's not the issue that's the problem. Science proves that 70% of our problems are unsolvable anyway, but it's the dialogue and the way you speak to each other, that's the problem. Communicating in a way that is defensive, critical or contemptuous erodes away a relationship. Not only do you not solve anything, but you make it worse. The more hurt you get, the more distant you get. Friendship, shared intimacy and values,start to get less and less, as you start to feel wounded and less safe around each other. The methods that we use at Bali Counselling will address all of these.

We guide you in learning new tools in order to communicate and we help you to understand each other, far more deeply and finally, find a way to be able to see and reach each other again. Simultaneously we assist in bringing back shared meaning, remembering who you were and implementing it. Relationship Counselling is about helping you repair the WHOLE HOUSE, not just the conflict room.

Relationship Counselling will guide you in how to:

  • Communicate assertively and calmly, in a style that will ensure both of you are heard and understood, rather than defensive and attacking.

  • Encourage and implement, Shared Positive Connection Times, for greater intimacy, 

  • Traceback old dynamics and behaviors that are not “Serving Your relationship" and open them up, release them and implement more balanced, healthy alternatives, so you are both heard and honoured, 

  •  We look at attachment styles. Is one of you falling into a parental role, whilst the other feels like a scolded child? We help you become Adult to Adult and recognize and stop the patterns that alter your dynamic.

  • Reset your commitments to each other by remembering the reasons why you love each other, sometimes this can be deprioritized creating distance between you.

  • Insecurities or mistrust can be unpacked in sessions and explored to find our where they have come from and how we can move you through them together in a very clear step by step process.

  • Help you to rebuild trust and form new ways forward.

  • Teach you how to problem solve and repair together after a disagreement.

   

40 years worth of Research, and 1000's of case studies have brought together this model that 100's of therapists are using, to help couples, come back to who they were, and build a solid foundation.

 

Relationship counselling is not a guarantee but it can help you find resolution, gain clarity, understanding, and forgiveness and allow you to move towards finding the right solutions for you.

We assign mid-session assignments and tasks that are unique to your needs. Tasks are designed to enable communication, bonding and depth to happen in real life, not just in your counseling sessions.

Our Sessions are transformative, direct, and to the point.

We are totally impartial: you as a couple are the client.

There is no blame and no shame. Sessions are simply two people taking responsibility and coming together to create healing, acceptance and change.

60-90MIN $170 usd
includes full assesment and Treatment plan

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